Anonymous said: "Thin privilege is being able to open a magazine/watch TV/a movie and seeing someone who has your body type/looks like you" - Ahahahaha NO. I'm thin. I've never seen anyone in magazines, on TV or in the movies who looks like me. There are more body types than "fat" and "thin".
the really, really terrible part about this is that they recognize that, when its fat bodies. like, i’ve seen them post things about how its thin privilege that “all plus size models have an hourglass body and no stomach and big boobs and a nice butt and they’re PHOTOSHOPPED!!!”
but still, they even completely discredit thin shaming because “you look like girls in magazines!!!!” but no, nobody does, not even the girls in the magazines becuase they are all lighting and angles and make up and soooo much photoshop.
TITP likes to ignore that its set up to make everyone feel bad enough about themselves that they’ll spend copious amounts of money to change their appearance.
Anonymous said: It frustrates me to no end that my mainly obese family polices what I eat. I am in the healthy weight range and easily one of the smallest family members. I have a history of eating disorders and they constantly make fun of me for not eating deserts/fattening foods. Any advice? I get temped to yell at them but my family is loving and otherwise supportive. Oh, btw- i am seeing a nutritionist and therapist.
ahh i forgot to answer this before now and i do apologize.
its terrible that your family is being so rude :/ i’m sure you have, but have you clearly stated that what they say/do is really hurtful and why? if they still don’t listen, i can only think of cutting them out of your life a bit. hopefully that would make them realize this is important to you.
i wish you luck on your battles with eating disorders/other mental issues <3
Anonymous said: this is kind of an off-topic question. I have seen a psychiatrist who has straight up told me that I suffer from EDNOS, but she did not "officially" diagnose me because I didn't want my parents to find out. Earlier you said that unless you have been diagnosed, you can't claim the title. Do you think this applies to my situation?
i don’t really want to be like the police about this.
i think you have every right to claim it, or at least say you have an eating disorder. i really just meant people (like those on TITP) who don’t go to a doctor and claim a diagnosis, or claim one they know cannot possibly apply to them, or reject the diagnosis they are given for a “better” one (so anorexia).
either way, i really hope you are getting treatment for it or decide to.
Anonymous said: when I was in highschool, a girl made a speech about box gaps "not being realistic". I remember when in the question time I told her that I had one and then proceeded to show her (I was being very spiteful but she was an asshat) she called me 'fake' and probably 'ano'. So many people who promote 'positive body image' just want to validate their bodies by putting down people who naturally have bodies society likes more. It doesnt make me fake that I'm skinny with big tits, blame rockin genetics.
ehh, the idea of “rockin genetics” should be abolished really. the idea that its lucky to be born with big boobies and nothing else is pointless and harmful to everyone in the end.
I really don’t understand approaching body positivity by “vilifying” the ideals or whatever. I can’t think of a better way to put it. the whole “dogs are for bones” “thigh gaps are gross/people hwo have them are sick” I don’t get why it can’t simply be “exist in your body and strive to be happy in it and don’t use it to hurt others”
planetary--hoe said: Apparently, thin privilege is getting the "you're probably that thin because you don't eat meat", "you don't want cake? you're gonna be one of those girls that diets, aren't you!?" and "you should eat more" lectures every other day. It's also hearing your best friend ask "don't you hate it when guys like girls like thigh gaps?" even when they know you have one. It's also your boyfriend telling you how thin you are every time food is brought up. How can people say we don't have problems???
Oh, they admit thin people have problems but “being told to eat a burger once isn’t a big deal” and you can “always get it tailored or shop in the kids section.”
their whole argument seems to come down to “yeah, but we don’t perceive your problems as bad enough to count. also ours look worse when we deny all of yours.”
I mean, maybe less people would say “but thin people DO deal with that, lots…” if they quit saying “fat people have to deal with this BUT THIN PEOPLE DON’T NOT EVER AND NOT SERIOUSLY”
Recently I have started a gluten free diet because I have a suspected gluten-intolerance (not the same as Celiac FYI) but it’s not 100% proven because I would have to pay a specialist a ridiculous amount of money to be allergy tested ($800 AU). My GP said that he believed I probably had a gluten intolerance and to adopt a gluten free diet for the foreseeable future as I told him that already doing so had helped with my symptoms considerably. Unfortunately, blood tests cannot diagnose an allergy to gluten, it will only detect Celiac Disease.
Anyway, so I haven’t been eating gluten for quite some time now and it’s made me feel so much better, a big indicator that this was what made me feel tired and gave me stomach cramps that were so bad I had to stay at home from University. But now of course, I have to ask when I go out to eat if certain things are gluten free and I have to explain to people that I don’t eat gluten.
And the number one response? Not ‘oh, are you Celiac? Are you allergic to wheat?’ or something like that. No, nearly every single time the reaction is ‘is it because you’re on one of those diets or something?’ or ‘are you doing it to lose weight?’.
And I have to wonder; would I get these questions if I wasn’t fat? I am small fat, what you would probably call an in-between person (about 50% of the time I fit into the top end of straight-size clothing, depending on the store) but I am also a big person. I’m tall with wide shoulders and hips. I doubt that I would if I looked like the other two people I know who have the same condition, both of whom are below 5’5” and are size 8-10 (I don’t know what that is in US sizes, sorry!)
Another thing that has annoyed me too is looking up gluten free recipes and being bombarded with “GREAT WAY TO LOSE WEIGHT” and “LOW FAT AND GREAT FOR YOU!” as the number one selling points of these products or recipes. Why should laying off gluten immediately be about being thin and therefore some sort of ‘good person’?
Thin privilege is being able to have special dietary requirements and not have people assume this is because you are trying to lose weight.
Oh, and I haven’t lost any weight since the change in my diet. Funny, that.
"And I have to wonder; would I get these questions if I wasn’t fat?"
well, in my experience, YES! As a very thin person, when I needed to cut gluten (and many, many other common foods) out of my diet, nearly everyone first assumed it was to lose weight!!!!!!!!
I got countless comments about how I shouldn’t try to lose weight! People (wait staff, friends, FAMILY) asked me if I had an eating disorder, told me I didn’t need to lose weight, but I could “stand to gain a few lbs! Maybe get a boyfriend ;)”
Sometimes, even after the 5th time I’d explained that I was avoiding foods because they made me SICK not because I had a problem with my looks, they would offer me things. “I’ll buy you ice cream!” “Wanna get a pizza?” I’d explain that even a little bit could harm me, they did not care! “Come on, just one piece won’t make you gain weight…” They would joke about slipping real! sugar into my food (the replacement I used had the same amount of cals anyways), of making food with real milk instead. I was actually very afraid of people who cared about me giving me things that were poisonous to me so I would gain weight.
They. did. not. believe. it. was. not. about. weight loss. and I was underweight when I began, and lost a few lbs anyways. Maybe you should listen to thin people about their stories instead of assuming they are treated differently.
Anonymous said: Encouraging deadly behaviors and discouraging healthy ones is bullshit. Yes it is wonderful to love your body, everyone is all for that. But it is clear that it's not what you are doing if you are drastically overweight. You want to be drastically overweight and continue to love yourself? Fine. But don't spew bs about how everyone should accommodate your dumbass/whine when they don't, or preach that it is 'healthy' & ok to others. Not a question but wanted to get it out there, anyways, ily babe.
haha, let it all out its safe here.
pretty much yes, though.
Anonymous said: I honestly wonder if the people at TiTP have ever encountered anyone with chronic anorexia, because it's seriously horrifying. My sister's recovering, and at her smallest was 5'7 and 64lbs, with a BMI of 10(!). It wasn't glamorous, and she looked less like a supermodel and more like a starvation victim. She was super frail and her malnutrition and illness drastically affected her personality. It's an awful disease and you can't claim it just because you skip breakfast or ate a salad once.
They would probably say its harder when you don’t look like you’re starving because no one believes you. Which I know happens, but is a separate issue entirely. They seem unsympathetic to thin, eating-disordered people and very much more focused on proving how much worse they have it.
I seriously hope your sister was able to recover, that sounds horrifying for everyone involved! I hope you were all able to get past it <3
britgirlthehuman said: When you’re vomiting up to 12 times a day every day I think it’s pretty safe to make the bulimia claim. Just saying. Call a spade a spade.
not to be super nitpicky here (i’m gonna be, sorry) but the purging’s gotta come with binging for bulimia.
also, these still are mental illnesses and really only trained people can adequately asses someone’s mental state. people surely can’t asses themselves accurately because they have biases and a warped perception. people around them might be able to provide better input, but they still don’t know as much.
i just don’t think there’s a situation where claiming to have something without a diagnosis is necessary.
Anonymous said: bless ur blog tbh 🙏
i prefer monetary tributes but this is appreciated as well